“Health Comes in All Shape and Sizes”-This is true!
Today I ran across this great blog and post. Since you know I am a fitness guy and really advocate for that I love reading and learning about all kinds of lifestyles. This is such a well written post I just had to share it with you all. WOOF! Buck
https://danceswithfat.wordpress.com/2012/06/11/the-crushing-cost-of-fat-stigma/
You just seem to be very pro-vag!
Q. Hey man I need to ask a question as a trans-man who has a total disconnect with his vagina how do you deal with it? Does it bother you? Do you love it? I’m not being judgmental,you just seem to be very pro-vag and I want to understand how you deal with it. My girl wants to touch it and penetrate it but I can’t handle it. I just want to rip it out of my body some days.
A.Hey buddy-I am pro loving your body and whatever that means for you. I had to learn to love my vag because I knew that I was never going to get bottom surgery and I love sex so much that it was coming between me and having good sex. I do not expect every guy like myself to embrace the vag like I do. I am just putting it out there to show that it is possible.
Some trans guys say that I am anti-bottom surgery because I embrace my vag so much. This is so very far from the truth. I think you should do what you need to do to love yourself and I wish that a trans man who has had bottom surgery would step up to the plate like I have and show the world how proud he is of his penis!
Just take it slowly my friend and try to come to terms with why you dislike your vag so much. I think that will help.
WOOF!
Buck Angel
You really embrace the idea of simply being comfortable in your own skin.
Mr. Angel,
My name is Ana, and I’m 29 years old. About six months ago, I had an “a-ha” moment when I realized that my body image issues might not simply be due to my weight, but also because no matter how in shape I get as a female, I really would prefer a masculine body. Since then, I have been doing a lot of research, talking with my various therapists (primary psycho, gender identity, nutritionist and personal trainer), talking with my family, and doing a lot of thinking. In that time, I have looked to you and your resources as a source of inspiration. With an open mind, you really embrace the idea of simply being comfortable in your own skin. This has really made a big difference in my thought process—at first, it felt like I had to automatically just presume that I needed to switch to being male. This has help me to also realize that all of what I’m feeling is solely about finally accepting my own body, not as what it is, but rather, what it could be. And, it’s not really about how I present to others or that I want to present a certain way to the public at all.
Though, at this time, I still technically identify as female, I definitely feel that I would be far more comfortable with a dominantly male body, and I’m trying to be very deliberate and slow with my process of attaining the body I really want. My first step is to do as much as I can to reach my healthiest point through nutrition and fitness. Once there, I want to live in that space for some time while assessing my comfort. If, in fact, that’s all that I needed, then I don’t need to move on. But, if I find that it’s still not feeling right, I would start to seriously consider top surgery because my breasts are really the most challenging part for me. Again, after that, live in that space and assess comfort. From there would be hormones.
That said, I’ve noticed most FtMs that I have met or read about often start testosterone first and then have top surgery. My question is does the order matter? Would doing one before the other make doing the other easier or harder? My problem is that hormones are still a little scary to me. With surgery, there’s a pretty standard outcome, whereas hormones work different and have different results for everyone. I want to be absolutely sure that it’s necessary to do before jumping into it.
I apologize for such a lengthy email, but I’m starting to recognize the need for reaching out to others, and who better than you!
I appreciate any feedback or responses you might have. Thanks for your time!
Sincerely,
Ana
Hi Ana,
Thanks for your email and trusting me to give you some good feedback.
I am happy to hear that you are becoming aware of how to be yourself no matter what anyone thinks. Good for you.
So you can surely have top surgery before taking hormones if you can find the doctor to do that. I have met some people who have done that. I think that is very smart of you to think about the testosterone. This is something that can have effects that you cannot reverse. Same for the top surgery, so think about that as well.
Just take your time and talk to people about it you will figure out what is right for you. And that is really the bottom line, make sure whatever you do is right for you. There is no right or wrong way.
Good luck my friend!
WOOF!
Buck Angel®
Pioneering Filmmaker, Speaker, and Advocate
I have some great friends! This is my buddy Oscar in Oklahoma. He works at 23rd St. Body Piercing. I gave him this tee but never thought he would actually wear it. But he did!! and sent me the pic to prove it. These tee’s were specially made for me by my buddy Jason Phfol who is the guy who makes my new glass toy line from Get Gorilla Glass. He had some Mexican street artists make the design for the tee. I love them-do you?
WOOF!
Buck Angel®
Pioneering Filmmaker, Speaker, and Advocate
Fan Art from Hungary-Happy New Year 2012! Let’s make great changes this year!
WOOF!
Buck Angel®
Pioneering Filmmaker, Speaker, and Advocate
The Angel part of your name is no coincidence
Feels good to wake up to this. WOOF!!
Dear Buck,
I recently met you at the Out Twin Cities Film festival.
I wanted to thank you for being at the festival, it has made a huge impact on me. I am a 42 year old man and I am a survivor of many abuses throughought childhood, and I have done lots of work on myself and I am clear that I am not a victim of those abuses any more. I recently moved to the Twin cities to be with my partner and I finally have the relationship of my dreams and a fulfilled life. In watching your segment and listening to you speak I clearly got that there is one area that I have not transformed and that is in my physical well being. I have spent many years not seeing my body in mirrors and I have never really attached myself to myself. (if that makes sense) At an early age I told myself that I needed to be big and tall so nobody would mess with me, well, ironically I got big and tall and people still messed with me. Then I got big around to make myself un-attractive to others and well, it worked. the problem is that I longed for intimacy etc… After meeting you and seeing your openess with who you are as a human being I am inspired and I am now looking at myself for who I am physically and I like it! I truly believe that the Angel part of your name is no coincidence, you have made a profound difference for me, and I thank you for your openess and for letting the world know that life is not black and white.
Thank you!
Ask Buck:
just a question in hopes you can help me. i have been on T for just over a year now and i still get alot of pains that come and go. so i was thinking of stopping taken T to see if the pain goes away and i also dont really want my hysto cause im a big ass whimp and dont want to be put to sleep. i no i will get my female thing back which im fine with. but i was wondering will my voice stay and my what i call it micro dink stay the same size? i just find it easier to ask someone about this stuff that has been threw it and/or has been doing it for awhile.
cant wait to hear from you
thank you
ben
Hi Ben
I have had those aches in my body as well. I think it is the growth of your body from the testosterone, Though I am not a doctor. This is just my experience.
For me the pain was not bad enough to stop because I love who I have become, But if you are even questioning this then you should stop taking the testosterone until you are 100 percent sure this is what you want.
Also I have heard that the physical changes are non reversible so that is also something you should think about.
One more thing, The amount of time that you have been on testosterone will effect these changes as well. I have been noticing and getting many of this same question.
It makes me wonder if many guys are just taking the testosterone for the wrong reasons.
Hope this helps!
WOOF!
Buck Angel®
Pioneering Filmmaker, Educator, and Advocate
