I do have an issue that makes me question my gender.
Hello, My name is Tom and I am a 25 year old man. I always have to seem like a tough guy. My family and friends expect this. I am a straight male but I do have an issue that makes me question my gender.
I really am embarrassed by this and I’m being very serious about this. While making love with my girlfriend in the bedroom I seem to let out extremely feminine attributes. I moan to my partner just as loud as she but in similar tones. As well as we both dominate each other. She always ends up on top there as well at end of lovemaking. It’s also always been my constant goal to satisfy my female partners fully. Even to the point that I am physically sad if I fail to do so during an act.
She has told me as well that I am a bigger tease than any woman she has ever known. I feel very much like a total equal to her always. I just don’t know if this is normal. I have always been kind of afraid that someone won’t accept me for this.
Hey Tom,
What a great email thank you so much for sharing this with me.
Why would you even question your gender? This has nothing to do with it. Just because you enjoy having sex and make loud noise when making love, well that just means you enjoy sex! I think it is so awesome that your girlfriend is so open and ok with you. Really that is all that matters.
Trust me your normal. It’s the people who try to make us always feel like we are not normal who are not normal! Because really what does that mean? The most important thing is that you learn to be ok with yourself and everything will come together after that.
One thing I have learned through my work is not everyone will like who you are or what you do, it’s just human nature. But if you love yourself and learn to just be who you are well then it all falls into place and life is amazing.
So go enjoy yourself because you sound like an awesome person to me:)
WOOF!!
Buck Angel®
Pioneering Filmmaker, Speaker, and Advocate
I will be speaking at Grand Valley State University in Grand Rapids MI March 14th at 6;30 pm. Hope to see you there.
WOOF!
Buck Angel®
Pioneering Filmmaker, Speaker, and Advocate
University of Winnipeg Gender Week 2012 is screening Sexing The Transman-The Documentary Feb. 16 at 7pm here is all the info:
Fan Art from Hungary-Happy New Year 2012! Let’s make great changes this year!
WOOF!
Buck Angel®
Pioneering Filmmaker, Speaker, and Advocate
Hi Buck Angel..My name is Luke
Hi Buck Angel..My name is Luke…I’m trans and I don’t know what to do anymore.
I want to be a boy, but I feel like if I have to be a boy, I have to be super manly..
I’ve been crying on and off for so long because I still like girl things and I don’t know if I’m allowed to…
You can be whatever you want!! There is no right or wrong way to be a boy or a man!
Just be yourself!
WOOF!
Buck Angel®
Pioneering Filmmaker, Speaker, and Advocate
I’ve got a female body but I feel like a man.
Hi Buck! I’m a transgender from Russia. Actually I’m not a transman I’ve got a female body but I feel like a man. Like a real man. And you know why? Because of YOU! When I learned about you I was dramatically impressed. YOU have changed my whole life! Earlier I used to be upset about my body I felt I can’t be a real man… And only when I’ve learned about you did I realize that it’s not the matter of having a cock. You’ve shown me that being a man is the matter of how you feel INSIDE. I would feel pretty uneasy wearing male clothes and acting like man because I thought everybody looked at me. And now it’s different. Now I don’t feel awkward wearing men’s clothes. Why? Damn because I AM a man and I know that! And now my life is completely different. After having learned you I started LOVING myself and my body! I don’t give a damn about the others think about me. I feel so confident and strong now. I am HAPPY. And that’s because of you being my pattern. THANK YOU.
Sincerely yours
S
Hi S
Thanks so much for the email. I am so proud of you that you have taken control of your life. You will be amazed at how empowering yourself like that will change everything. It is not an easy thing to do but when you make up your mind to stop feeling like a victim and realize that you make life what it is then everything changes. I realize that not everyone is always in a great position to do things but by changing your mental attitude first, everything comes after.
Also thank you for letting my work inspire you that means tons to me.
Good luck on your journey my friend.
WOOF!!
Buck Angel®
Pioneering Filmmaker, Speaker, and Advocate
I use the mens locker room all the time with no problems.( I have a vagina) I am legally ( in the eyes of the US government) a male. So I can use the toilet, locker room or any other place that is “male” whether you like it or not! So get used to it people! The world is changing and it does not consist of just”black and white”. There are many variations of gender.
Mr Buck AngelPioneering Filmmaker, Speaker, and Advocate