Dear Buck Angel

I am a 20 year old guy who moved to the U.S. 3 months ago. I lost my virginity when I hit puberty at 12. I lost it to my best friend who is a boy and had a 7 years relationship with him. I left him 2 years ago because I am afraid to tell my strict religious parents that I might be gay. currently I haven’t had sex with a guy or girl for the past 2 years and am going crazy. The country that I come from bans homosexuality and the law says that all homosexuals must go to prison to turn them straight. Sometimes I think of committing a suicide. I never had sex with a girl.

You think I should come out to my parents or should I discover myself if am gay, bi or heterosexual who had a homosexual experience ?

Regards,

Hi,

Thank you for your mail. I am so sorry that you have to deal with this. Many people have to because for some reason society tells us that being different is wrong or being LGBT is wrong. Well I am telling you that they are wrong. You are totally fine. Please do not feel like killing yourself. It is not the way to deal with this. You must seek out some professional help in your area.
I am not sure if you now live in the USA but if so there are lots of great org. for you. Please watch my It Gets Better video for some info on those.
Just remember that you are OK and that you should love yourself and be strong and know this.
Find peace with yourself first and then you will know how to deal with your parents.

WOOF!
Buck Angel®
Pioneering Filmmaker, Speaker, and Advocate